Kungenzeka ukuthi izikhathi ezingaphezu kwesisodwa ububukele ithelevishini noma uziphumulele futhi ubonile ukuthi umngane wakho onoboya ufike kanjani kuwe futhi useqalile yenza ama-massage. Lesi yisikhathi esingaphindwa nsuku zonke uma uhlala nekati enothando, kodwa wake wazibuza kungani ekwenza?
Akukhona ukuthi ngiprakthiza ukuba masseur, yize kungahle kubonakale ngenye indlela. Asibone kungani ikati lami lingibhucunga.
Isenzo sokuxova noma sokubhucunga senziwa uma kuyezwakala, ngikhululekile nawe. Waqala ukukwenza esanda kuzalwa, ngenhloso yokuthola ubisi oluningi kunina, futhi usazoqhubeka nokwenza njalo impilo yakhe yonke. njalo lapho efuna ukukukhombisa ukuthi ukuthanda kangakanani.
Ngokusobala, ngeke ukwazi ukumnika ubisi lwebele, kodwa ungakwazi ukutotoswa okuningi ukumazisa ukuthi nawe uzizwa ukhululeke kakhulu enkampanini yakhe, okungangabazeki ukuthi kuzoqinisa ubuhlobo benu.
Into eyodwa ongayiqaphela, ikakhulukazi uma ukhulisa noma ukhulise izinyane lekati ngebhodlela noma isirinji, yilokho Esaxova uzobe eselumile okuthile, ingubo, ijakhethi oyigqokile, ... noma yini engaphansi kwayo. Angikwazi ukukutshela uma iyeka ukuyiluma lapho ifinyelela ebudaleni, kodwa engingakuqinisekisa ukuthi ikwenza lokho ngoba ijwayele ukuluma ibhodlela noma isirinji. Futhi ukuba yisilwane esijwayele, kungaba nzima ukususa noma yisiphi. Kepha lokhu ikakhulukazi akuvamisile ukudala inkinga.
Isenzo sokuxova siyisenzo esihle kakhulu, esingokwemvelo ezinkabeni. Kuyithuba elihle loku qinisa izibopho phakathi kwabantu namakati, ngakho-ke ngincoma ukuthi uwasebenzise ngokugcwele.
Sikushiya nalomuhle ividiyo amakati amabili:
https://youtu.be/598IdFlOXcQ
Yini ebangela ukuxova kwezinsikazi?
Amazinyane axova amabele onina ngoba ivuselela ukukhululwa kobisi futhi ikhuthaza ukukhululwa kwe i-oxytocin, ehambisana nenhlalakahle. Le iphethini yobuntwana igcinwa kubantu abadala abaningi neoteny (ukugcinwa kokuziphatha kwentsha). Ngaphezu kwalokho, kunezindlala kumapads akhululayo pheromones; lapho bexova “basayina” ngephunga labo futhi baxhumane isibopho kanye nempahla eqenjini elifanayo lezenhlalo. Uma ikati lakho liguqa ithanga lakho, likutshela, ngolimi lwe-feline, lokho zithembe wena nokuthi uyingxenye yombuthano wakhe oseduze.
Ukukhathazeka nini futhi kanjani ukuphatha?
Ezimweni eziningi, ukuxova kubonisa induduzo. Uma ukuziphatha, ikakhulukazi nge ukumunca, ivame kakhulu, ihlala isikhathi eside kakhulu noma izimbangela ukulimala kwemilenze noma emlonyeni, angakhomba ukucindezeleka noma ubuhlungu futhi kuhle ukuthi uthintane nodokotela wezilwane; kubonakala kalula ku Isi-Siamese nesiBurmaUma uluma kaningi noma uncela izindwangu ngenkathi uxova futhi ungenisa imicu, kungenzeka i-pica (ingcindezi, isithukuthezi, ukushoda kwemizwa noma ukuphazamiseka), okudinga ukuhlolwa kochwepheshe. Ukuyilawula, sebenzisa i-a ingubo ewugqinsi phakathi kwezinzipho zakhe nesikhumba sakho, ungamthethisi, iqondisa kabusha endaweni ethambile bese iqinisa i- ukuthamba ngenkomba yomlomo (“mnene”) kanye nomvuzo. Amanye amakati awagundi, futhi lokho kubuye kujwayelekile ngokuphelele.
Kwesinye isikhathi, amakati angaguquki angaqinisa ukuxova ngenxa izinguquko ze-hormonal, kanye nezinsikazi eziningi nazo ziyisebenzisa njenge ukwelula kanye “nokulungisa umbhede” ngaphambi kokulala.
Qonda ukuthi lesi senzo sihlangene inhlalakahle, ukuxhumana ngamakhemikhali nemikhuba efundiwe izokusiza ukuthi uyijabulele kakhulu futhi ungenelele kuphela uma kunesidingo, ugcine ukuhlalisana okuzolile nokunothando.