Kungenzeka yini ukuba namakati amabili ahlala endlini eyodwa? Yebo! Kodwa zimbalwa izinto ezicatshangelwayo, njengobuntu nezidingo zomuntu ngamunye, ngoba ngaphandle kwalokho, esikhundleni sokuthuthukisa ukuhlala ndawonye, umphumela ophambene uzotholakala: kuyandisa futhi kwandise ukucindezeleka...futhi okuningi.
Ikati liyisilwane esithanda indawo yonke, okusho ukuthi uma uzizwa usongelwa noma ungakhululekile Ukuba khona kwenye inja cishe kuzobangela ulaka kuyo. Umsebenzi wethu ukunciphisa lokhu kungakhululeki ukuze, kancane kancane, inja yamukele enye inja futhi ikwazi ukwabelana ngesikhala ngaphandle kokwesaba. Kodwa singakwenza kanjani lokhu ngokuphepha nangenhlonipho kuzo zombili? Yingakho... Ngikumema ukuba ufunde le ndatshana lapho ngizokunikeza khona amathiphu amaningi okuba namakati amabili ukuhlala ngaphansi kophahla olufanayo, bechaza isinyathelo ngesinyathelo ukuthi yini okufanele uyicabangele ngaphambi, ngesikhathi nangemva kwesethulo.
Hlangana namakati
Ukuze konke kuhambe kahle Kubaluleke kakhulu ukwazi ikati ngalinye ngokwalo.Kungani? Ngoba sivame ukuletha ikati lesibili ekhaya ngaphandle kokuzethula kahle, noma ngaphandle kokuzinika isikhathi sokuqonda ikati esivele sinalo. Isibonelo, yilokhu abantu abaningi abakwenzayo lapho bethola ikati elilahliwe noma elilahlekile bese bemane banqume ukuligcina ngaphandle kokucabangela ukuthi lesi sinqumo singase singabi yilokho umngane wabo onoboya akuthandayo.
Yilokho engikuqondayo: Ngikwenzile kabili noma kathathu. Ngibe nenhlanhla yokuthi izinto zihambe kahle ekugcineni futhi sesibe abangane, kodwa ukuqala bekungelula nhlobo. Yingakho ngifuna ukukusiza ukuze Ungenzi amaphutha afanayo engangizibophezele ngaleso sikhathi. Ngakho-ke, ngaphambi kokwenza noma yini, kufanele uthathe isikhathi sokwazi ama-fiminkokubili leyo osunayo kakade kanye nale ongathanda ukuba nayo.
Thola ukuthi iyathandeka yini ukuxhumana nabantu, okusho ukuthi iyakujabulela ukuba nabantu, noma ukuthi iyikati elinamahloni. Bheka futhi isabela kanjani kwamanye amakati? Uma ebabona ngefasitela, kudokotela wezilwane noma endlini yezihlobo: uma ebonakala enelukuluku, ekhululekile, noma uma ekhala, ecasha noma eba nolaka kakhulu.
Ngaphandle kobuntu, kubalulekile ukubheka ubudala kanye nezinga lamandlaIzifundo zokuziphatha kwekati zibonisa ukuthi ikati elidala livame ukwamukela ikati elincane kunelinye ikati elidala elingajwayelekile, ngoba umuntu omdala "ongena endaweni" ubhekwa njengombangi wendawo, kanti ikati aliyona ingozi kangako. Kubalulekile futhi ukuthi isitayela sokudlala kanye nomsebenzi ukuthi kokubili kuyafana: ikati elizolile kakhulu linganqotshwa kakhulu yisiphepho esinamandla esihlala sifuna ukudlala ngokomzimba.
Kuhle futhi ukucabangela ukuthi ikati lakho lamanje linayo yini noma cha inkinga yezempilo noma yokuziphatha (ukwesaba, ulaka, ukumaka umchamo, ukucindezeleka, njll.). Ukwengeza ikati lesibili engxabanweni engaxazululiwe kungenza isimo sibe sibi kakhulu. Ezimweni ezinjalo, kuyalulekwa ukuthi Xhumana nodokotela wezilwane kuqala noma isazi sezilwane ezifuywayo futhi uqinisekise ukuthi womabili amakati athola ukuhlolwa okudingekayo, ukugonywa, kanye nokwelashwa kokukhipha izikelemu.
Ukwazi ukuthi ngayinye yazo injani kuzokusiza ukuthi wenze isinqumo esinolwazi kakhulu nesinengqondo mayelana nokuthi yisikhathi esihle sokwandisa umndeni wakho wekati, ukuthi hlobo luni lwekati olufanela kangcono, kanye ijubane lokwethula Kungcono kakhulu kuwe ukuqhubeka.
Ingabe kuwumqondo omuhle ukuba namakati amabili endlini yakho?
Ngaphambi kokuletha ikati lesibili ekhaya, ngaphezu kokulazi, udinga ukuhlaziya uma ikhaya lakho kanye nesimo sakho Zilungele ukuhlala ndawonye kwamakati amaningi. Akuwona wonke amakhaya noma imisebenzi yabantu ehambisana namakati amabili, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi izinhloso zethu zinhle kangakanani.
Inqubo ewusizo kakhulu enconywe ochwepheshe abaningi ukuthi kufanele kube negumbi okungenani elilodwa ngekati ngalinyeLokhu akusho ukuthi ikati ngalinye lizohlala livalelwe ekamelweni, kodwa kunalokho indlu inezindawo ezanele ezihlukene ukuze, uma zifuna ukugwemana, zikwazi. Ucwaningo olwenziwe ngamakati angaphakathi lubonise ukuthi ukuba nezindawo ezihlukene kunciphisa amathuba okungqubuzana nokucindezeleka okungapheli.
Kudingeka futhi sicabange nge izinsiza ezikhona: amabhokisi esihlabathi, izindawo zokondla, izindawo zokunisela amanzi, izinsika zokuklwebha, izindawo zokucasha, izindawo eziphakeme zokuhlala, nezindawo zokuphumula. Umthetho ovame ukusetshenziswa yilowo othi «insiza eyodwa ngekati ngalinye, kanye nenye eyengeziweOkusho ukuthi, ngamakati amabili: amabhokisi amathathu okulahla imfucuza, imithombo yamanzi emithathu, kanye okungenani nezinsika ezimbili noma ezintathu zokuklwebha ezisakazeke kahle. Uma kufanele bancintisane ngazo, cishe kuzoba nempi eqinisekisiwe.
Ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuba namakati amabili kusho izindleko eziphindwe kabili ekudleni, emfucumfucwini, ekuhlolweni kwezilwane, ekugonyweni, kanye nasekwelashweni okungenzeka. Kubalulekile ukwethembeka ngesabelomali sakho futhi ulindele ukuthi uma isilwane sakho sigula, singadinga ukuhlolwa okwengeziwe kanye nemithi.
Kufanele futhi uwazise isikhathi kanye nezinga lokuzibandakanyaNakuba ikati lesibili lingaba umngane omuhle kakhulu wokudlala naye okokuqala, alithathi indawo yobuhlobo nawe. Womabili asazodinga ukunakwa, ukudlala okusebenzisanayo, ukuxubha, kanye nokubhekwa kokuqala kuze kube yilapho esezinzile ngokuphelele. Uma uchitha amahora amaningi ungekho ekhaya, amakati amabili ahlalisana kahle angase akwazi ukugcina omunye nomunye ekhona, kodwa indawo yawo kufanele ithuthukiswe kakhulu.
Indlela yokukhetha ikati lesibili elifanele
Uma ukhetha ikati lesibili, ubulili ngokuvamile abubalulekile kunezinye izici. Okuthonya kakhulu impumelelo yokuhlala ndawonye inhlanganisela yobudala, ubuntu, kanye nezinga lomsebenzi kusuka kokubili.
Amanye amaphuzu abalulekile okufanele uwakhumbule:
- Ubudala: Amakati amadala ngokuvamile abekezelela ikati kangcono kunelinye ikati elidala elingajwayelekile ngoba ikati aliyona ingozi eqondile endaweni. Kodwa-ke, uma ikati lakho likhulile futhi lizolile kakhulu, ikati elikhuthele kakhulu lingalikhathaza; uma kunjalo, ikati elidala elincane kodwa elilinganiselayo lingaba yisinqumo esingcono.
- Ubuntu: Zama ukuqinisekisa ukuthi womabili amakati anesimo sengqondo esifanelanayo. Ikati elinamahloni kakhulu lingase lizizwe lesaba ikati elibusa kakhulu, kuyilapho amakati amabili angazethembi kakhulu engase aqinise ukwesaba komunye nomunye. Okungcono kakhulu, lawo amazinga okuzethemba nokuqina ungabi ngokweqisa ngezindlela eziphambene.
- Ukuxhumana kwangaphambilini: Izifundo eziningi zibonisa ukuthi amakati akhule noma ahlala namanye amakati kusukela esemncane ajwayela kangcono ukungezwa okusha. Buza endaweni yokukhosela noma umfuyi ukuthi ikati likhona yini. uphile namakati amaningi nokuthi waziphatha kanjani.
- Isimo sokuzala: Kunconywa kakhulu ukuthi bobabili inzalo noma ukuthi uhlela ukukwenza ngokushesha okukhulu, ukuze ugweme ukufuya amabele angafuneki futhi unciphise ulaka oluhlobene nama-hormone kanye nokumaka umchamo.
Uma unethuba lokukhetha phakathi kwamakati amaningana, gwema lelo elibonisa ukuphikisana ngokweqile Uma unabantwana bakubo (beshaya iminwe, beshaya ikhwelo, futhi behlasela njalo), khetha eyodwa, nakuba idlala, eyaziyo ukuthi izilawule kanjani. Izindawo zokukhosela nezinhlangano zokutakula zivame ukwazi kahle isimo sekati ngalinye futhi zingakuqondisa endleleni efaneleka kakhulu kweyakho.
Uma ufuna ukwamukela abafowethu ababiliNgokuvamile ziyazwana kakhulu uma zikhulele ndawonye, futhi izindawo eziningi zokukhosela zincoma ukuthi zingahlukaniswa. Uma enye iyinduna kanti enye iyinsikazi, futhi, ukuhlukanisa noma ukuhlukanisa kubalulekile ukuvimbela inzalo enezinkinga zempilo ezingaba khona ngenxa yokuzalana kwezilwane ezizalwa ndawonye.
Yenza izingeniso kancane kancane
Njengoba nje kungekho muntu ongathanda ukugonwa ngumuntu angamazi nhlobo—okungenani ngosuku lokuqala—ukwethula ikati elilodwa kwelinye kungazelelwe kungaphetha ngokuthi ukubhonga, ukuklwebha kanye/noma ukulumaUma ufaka amakati amabili ngokushesha kakhulu bese kuphetha ngokulwa, angase angaze athembane ngokuphelele. Yingakho ukuxhumana nabantu kufanele kube... kulawulwa futhi kancane kancane.
Ukugwema izinkinga, Kunconywa kakhulu ukuthi uqale ngokufuya »okusha» lapho sisekhayeni lezinja noma lezilwaneNgakho-ke, esizokwenza ukufaka uboya balo iphunga lomzimba wethu, into ezosiza ikati "elidala" ukuthi lizole, njengoba lizohlobanisa lelo phunga nento ejwayelekile nephephile.
Ngemuva kwalokho, sizoyifaka kuphethe bese siyisa ekhaya, lapho sizoyishiya egumbini ngombhede wayo, umkhombe wayo kanye ne-feeder, sandbox namathoyizi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, sizombesa umbhede ngengubo - noma indwangu enhle ethambile uma kusehlobo noma kushisa kakhulu-, futhi sizokwenza okufanayo ngombhede wekati »elidala». Kusukela ngosuku olulandelayo, sizoshintshanisa izingubo zokulala noma izindwangu izinsuku ezi-2 noma ezi-3 ukuze babone futhi bamukele iphunga lenye. Uma sibona ukuthi bayakhokhoza noma bayabhonga, kuyinto ejwayelekile, kepha ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bazozizwa bekhululeke kakhudlwana.
Phakathi nalesi sigaba sokuqala kubalulekile ukuthi ikati elisha libe igumbi eliphephile Le ndawo kufanele isebenze "njengesisekelo." Kufanele ibe nakho konke okudingekayo futhi akufanele ihlaselwe yikati elihlala kuyo. Kumakati azwelayo, lesi sigaba singahlala izinsuku eziningana noma ngisho namasonto, kuye ngezinga lawo lokuthembana kanye nobukhulu bokusabela kwawo.
Uma ufuna ukuthuthukisa isethulo, ungasebenzisa ama-pheromone enziwe nge-feline Sebenzisa i-diffuser noma i-spray ezindaweni ezivamile kanye nasezindaweni ezizungezile iminyango. La ma-pheromone alingisa izimpawu zobuso ezishiywa yikati lapho ligudlana, futhi izifundo eziningi ziphawulile ukuthi ayasiza ekunciphiseni ukucindezeleka kanye nolaka phakathi kwamakati.
Ngosuku lwesine noma lwesihlanu sizokhipha ikati "elisha" egumbini bese simvumela ukuthi abone "okudala" ngokusebenzisa isithiyo lapho bengakwazi ukunuka nokuthintana khona. Lesi sisithiyo kungaba umnyango ovulekile kancane, iphaneli yesikrini, isikrini se-mesh yokukhanya, noma ngisho nesithwali esibekwe ukuze babone omunye nomunye. Futhi, uma bebhonga noma bekhala, noma noma uboya babo bume, kuvamile ngokuphelele. Sizobashiya kanje, "ndawonye kodwa bengaxabene," kuze kube yilapho bobabili beqala ukuzizwa bekhululekile.
Ekuqaleni, izikhathi zokubonana emehlweni kufanele zibe kufushane futhi kuyalawulekaUma noma ubani kubo ecindezeleka kakhulu (ukubhonga okukhulu, ukuzama ukuhlasela okuqondile, ukushaya okukhulu esivimbelweni), siphetha iseshini ngokuthula bese sizama futhi ngosuku olulandelayo. Uma ukucindezeleka kukhulu kakhulu futhi kuphinde kubuye, kuyalulekwa ukufuna usizo lochwepheshe.
Uma sibona lokho, lapho bebonana, baqala ukubonisana izimpawu ezikhululekile kakhulu (ukubheka eceleni, ukuzilungisa, ukulala ngohlangothi, ukudla eduze kwesithiyo ngaphandle kokucindezeleka), singakwethula ukuqinisa okuhle: ukudla okulula, ukudla okumanzi okuncane noma ukudlala kancane ngezikhathi lapho bezolile khona.
Khona-ke, Kuzoba yindaba yokususa isithiyo bese uqala ukubanakekela Njengoba sasikulangazelela ngempela ukwenza kusukela osukwini lokuqala: ukubanika uthando bobabili ngesikhathi esisodwa. Ngesikhathi sokuqala bekhululekile endaweni efanayo, kungase kube nokujaha okuncane, ukuklolodelana, noma ukumaka umzimba; uma nje kungekho ulaka olukhulu, mabalawule ibanga labo, bangenelele kuphela ukuze bamise izimo ezibi kakhulu ngomsindo ophansi noma ngokubeka okuthile phakathi kwabo, kodwa ngaphandle kokubamba ngqo ukugwema ukuhlaselwa okuqondiswe kuwe.
Ungayinaki ikati "elidala" uvuna "okusha"
Ikati "elidala" yilona ebelikade isikhathi eside kunabo bonke, lelo elihlanganyele izikhathi ezimbalwa noma eziningi ezinhle kakhulu. Ukufika kwekati lesibili emndenini akumele neze kusho "ukushiywa" kwekati ebelivele lihlala endlini. Empeleni, Uma sifuna ukuhlala ndawonye kube kuhle kuwo wonke umuntu, okumele sikwenze ukunikeza uthando olukhulu kuwo wonke umuntu ngokulinganayo futhi uqiniseke ukuthi bayajabula, banakekelwa zonke izidingo zabo.
Izingxabano eziningi phakathi kwamakati zivela lapho umhlali ebona ukuthi ulahlekelwa yizinsiza ezibalulekileUkunaka kwakho, izindawo zokuphumula ezinhle kakhulu, umbhede owuthandayo, indawo esofeni… Ukuze ugweme lokhu, kubalulekile ukuthi phakathi namasonto ambalwa okuqala qinisa ubuhlobo naye ngokwengeziwe: izikhathi ezikhethekile zokudlala, ukuphulula, amazwi athambile kanye nemikhuba ayevele eyazi.
Uma kukhona abantwana, kubaluleke kakhulu ukubenza baqonde lokhu, ngoba bavame ukunaka kakhulu ikati "elisha" kunelika "elidala" ngoba liyinto entsha kubo; futhi uma ikati "elidala" lizwela kakhulu, kungase kube nzima kakhulu ukwamukela ikati "elisha". Bachazele ukuthi ikati elihlala lapha lidinga ukuzizwa liphephile nokuthi uthando kufanele luhlanganyelwe, ubafundise ukuthi hlonipha isikhala kokubili lapho befuna ukuphumula.
Kuyasiza kakhulu futhi ungashintshi imikhuba ngokuzumayo yekati osuvele unayo. Gcina isimiso sayo sokudla, izindawo zokuphumula ezivamile, namathoyizi ayithandayo. Uma inqubo yayo yansuku zonke ibikezelwa kakhudlwana, kuzoba lula ngayo ukujwayela umngane omusha ngaphandle kokuyihlanganisa nokulahlekelwa induduzo.
Lungisa ikhaya lakho ukuze uthole amakati amabili ngaphandle kwengxabano.
Ukuba namakati amabili ekhaya kusho ukuthi Kunezilwane ezimbili ezithanda ukukhuphukela ezindaweni eziphakemeBazomaka indawo yabo ngezinzipho zabo, bazofuna ukungena ebugebengwini, futhi-ke, bazofuna ukulala nomndeni. Ukuze kuncishiswe ukungezwani, ikhaya kufanele lakhiwe ngendlela yokuthi bobabili bakwazi... yabelana ngaphandle kokuncintisana.
Amanye amaphuzu abalulekile:
- Amabhokisi esihlabathi: Beka okungenani ibhokisi elilodwa lokulahla imfucuza ngekati ngalinye, kanye nelinye elengeziwe, elisakazeke ezindaweni ezahlukene zendlu. Gwema ukulihlanganisa lonke, ngoba lokhu kungabangela ukuvinjelwa kanye nezingxabano.
- Abaphakeli nabaphuzayo: Inikeza iziteshi eziningana zamanzi nezokudla ezihlukene ukuze ikati elilodwa lingakwazi ukulawula ukufinyelela kwelinye. Amakati amaningi azizwa ekhululekile ngalokhu. okondlayo kanye nomniseli wemvula kude kakhulu kanye nemithombo yamanzi ezindaweni ezahlukene.
- Ukuklwebha izinsika nezindawo eziqondile: Ukuklwebha izinsika kubalulekile ukuze amakati aphawule indawo yawo ngaphandle kokulimaza ifenisha. Beka ezingaphezu kweyodwa, zezinhlobo ezahlukene (phansi, umbhoshongo, ekhoneni), bese uzihlanganisa namashalofu noma izihlahla zamakati ukuze ikati ngalinye lithole indawo yalo ephakeme.
- Izindawo zokucasha nezindawo zokukhosela: Amabhokisi, imihume, imibhede yesitayela se-igloo, noma ngisho nezindawo ezingaphansi kwefenisha lapho bangaphephela khona. Izindawo zokucasha zinciphisa ukucindezeleka ngoba zinikeza izindlela zokubaleka ezibonakalayo uma bengafuni ukuxhumana.
- Amathoyizi nokucebisa: Amabhola, izinduku, amathoyizi asebenzisanayo, imigudu, kanye nezindawo zokudla noma zokuphuza. Umsebenzi ohlanganyelwe womzimba nowengqondo uyawaqeda amakati futhi wehlise amazinga awo okucindezeleka.
Uma ikhaya lakho lincane noma linekamelo elilodwa elikhulu kuphela, ungasebenzisa izithiyo ezilula, amaphaneli noma amakheji amakhulu Phakathi namasonto ambalwa okuqala, dala izindawo ezihlukene ngaphandle kokuvala iminyango unomphela. Lokhu kuyasiza, isibonelo, uma kuneminyango eshelelayo engayivula amakati noma uma kungekho igumbi elihlukile, elinomoya omuhle.
Makube ngamakati
Ukuba namakati amabili ekhaya kusho ukuthi kunezilwane ezimbili ezithanda ukugibela ezindaweni eziphakeme, ezizomaka indawo yazo ngezinzipho zazo, ezizofuna ukwenza okubi futhi, vele, zilale nomndeni. Ngakho-ke, bazodinga ama-scrapersImibhede, izitsha zamanzi, izitsha zokudla namathoyizi, yebo, kodwa futhi nekhaya lapho zingaba khona futhi ziziphathe njengalokho eziyikho: amakati, amakati kuphela futhi ngokukhethekile.
Bazofunda phakathi kwabo lawula ukuqina komdlaloukufunda ukulawula ukulunywa nokuswayipha kwazo nokuhumusha kangcono ulimi lwekati. Ngokuvamile, ukuba nekati elinye kunciphisa ukuziphatha okuyinkinga okuvela ekudinweni, njengokuklwebha ifenisha ngokweqile, ukuklewula njalo ebusuku, noma ukukuxosha ngokungaphezi ukuze udlale.
Noma kunjalo, kubalulekile ukuhlonipha isikhathi sawo futhi ungaphoqeleli ubudlelwano. Amanye amakati amabili ahlukana, alala ndawonye futhi azilungisa; amanye abekezelelana futhi ahlala ndawonye ngokuthula, kodwa akhetha ukugcina ibanga elithile. Zombili lezi zimo zingacatshangelwa. ukuhlalisana okuphumelelayo uma kungekho ukwesaba noma ubudlova.
Uma ubona ukuthi elinye lamakati libonakala lihlukunyezwa njalo, livinjiwe yizinsiza, noma libonisa izimpawu zokucindezeleka (ukukhotha ngokweqile, ukuphawula umchamo omusha, ukuzihlukanisa ngokweqile, ukulahlekelwa yisifiso sokudla), kuwuphawu lokuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle futhi kungase kudingeke ukuthi kubuyiselwe ekhaya. ukucabanga kabusha ngokuphathwa kwesikhala noma ufune usizo kuchwepheshe wokuziphatha.
Ngakho, unganqikazi ukusebenzisa kahle wonke umzuzu ochitha naboNgoba ukuhlala nalezi zilwane kungenye yezinto ezinhle kakhulu esingaba nazo njengabantu. Ukusekela ukuzivumelanisa kwazo, ukuqaphela indlela ezamukelana ngayo nokwakha ngayo isibopho sazo, nokuzinikeza indawo ezinzile nehloniphekile kwenza impilo yasekhaya ibe ngcono kakhulu kuzo... nakuwe futhi.